Coming True: Seeking Truth in Self Later in Life (Paperback)
"I am married to an amazing woman, and we have great kids. I also am carrying a huge secret deep inside: I am gay." Accepting truth about sexual identity after living outwardly as straight is terrifying and incredibly difficult to maneuver. Some fool themselves that this will be just fine, some have been caught exploring their sexuality, and some consider drastic steps to spare themselves and their loved ones from this truth. Better days are ahead Coming True serves as a comprehensive and vital manual for men who find themselves in this situation, from the first inkling to the day they live authentically across all spectrums of life. Topics cover the full range of this experience from the messages that drive some into the closet, the pathways and options to move forward, and the steps it takes to live a truly free and authentic life. Questions that will be answered include:
Where do I begin?
Is coming out worth it?
How do I tell people my truth?
What should I expect after coming out?
What does Coming True really mean anyway?
Licensed Professional Counselor William Brown walks through the process step by step with real plans to be able to move forward with dignity, self-respect, and hope Every person's situation is uniques, but learning from others' experience with this journey is invaluable in what feels like a very isolating and unique situation. Coming True also includes letters written by other men who have walked this path, filled with wisdom, honesty and promise about this process.
Family, friends, and professionals supporting someone coming out later in life also benefit from this information. Often times, support people are unsure about how to have conversations about what their loved on is facing. Learning about the process can better inform how to be most supportive and helpful.
William Brown, LPC, leads a therapy group called "Out Late" for men coming out later in life, which began over ten years ago. He came out at the age of forty after being married for eighteen years and having two children. Subsequently he worked with dozens of men, couples, and families in this situation over the years, and Coming True distills the themes and approaches that are most common.